I love the way you love me and your family. I love how you treat us and how great you are with the kids. I love when you help me when I need it most. I love how physically and mentally strong you are. I love that you have hobbies outside of us. I love that you are a hard worker and manly man. Despite how much I love you and your hobbies, I absolutely, with everything in me, hate your video game.
Writing this blog will probably take me a total of 5 hours with all of the interruptions from OUR kids, yet you can have 3 hours of uninterrupted time on your computer game because God forbid you pause it for two seconds. Oh, you can’t pause it because you are playing live? I don’t care. When I was going into labor and you could not stop your game, that is when the line is crossed.
I appreciate you more than you will ever know for financially taking care of all of us and going to work 5 days a week. I understand that it can get stressful sometimes and you need a break to get some “you time.” Now, I need you to see where I am coming from. I take care of our kids 24 hours a day. I do not get a break even though you think I can take a nap when the kids are napping which, by the way, is NEVER at the same time.
You come home and want to unwind, I want and need a break, and your kids are excited to see you and ready to spend some time with you. They only get a couple hours with you before they have to go to bed and no, our daughter does not like sitting on your lap while you play your game even though you like to think she does. She will take what she can get and I do not think it is fair to anyone, including you, if she is sitting on your lap pounding away at the keyboard to get a reaction out of you. Plus, I do NOT want my daughter growing up thinking this is okay for quality time with daddy or, even worse, become a gamer. (No offense.)
Can we talk about the mood you get in when you don’t win a game? My goodness! If you lose, I have to walk on eggshells around you just in case I say the wrong thing. I have learned to NEVER say “it’s going to be okay, it’s just a game” because I now know that is a trigger phrase. I would almost rather you to go back to the game for another hour just so you can redeem yourself, win, and then tell me about how you won with whatever character it is that I don’t care about.
I think it is hilarious how you like to justify you playing a game! Just because my brother or your best friend is online and playing, that does not give you a free pass. I do not think any higher of the game just because others are doing it with you. In fact, I know that my brother’s wife hates the game just as much as I do! You giving me cute puppy dog eyes is not helping you out neither.
You know what is the worst? When I ask you to do something because I didn’t realize you are on the computer and one of two things happen. If it has nothing to do with the kids, you will immediately say that you just started a game. I think I hate this so much because I know you are going to be useless for at least an hour. If I ask you to do something pertaining one of our kids like asking for help, all you do is yell at our daughter to do something which, let’s be honest, is a waste of time.
I am not, by any means, asking you to give up your game! I think it is important to have your own little things that you like doing by yourself. For me, I like to shower or pee by myself. Oh, wait…
I am, however, asking that you think before playing a game. There is a time and place for everything. If you come home one day and your computer is gone, know that you did something really wrong…like WHEN I WAS IN LABOR. No, I will never let that down.
Ps. I really do love you.